Lesson 3: Parents: Helpful or Hassle?

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• Upper Secondary (Key Stage 4)
• Further Education (Key Stage 5)
• BTEC, GCSE

Introductie

The exam period is an exciting yet often stressful time for students. They struggle with planning, concentration, exam anxiety, and balancing study with relaxation. The lesson series Exam Boost supports students in preparing for their exams in a structured and calm way. These lessons are light-hearted, interactive, and immediately applicable, helping students to study effectively without feeling overwhelmed. The focus is on practical strategies they can use right away, such as smart planning, managing stress, building healthy habits, and studying more efficiently. Each lesson includes: • A short introduction presenting a relatable scenario. • Interactive elements like polls, quiz questions, and practical tasks to actively engage students. • Concrete tips and exercises to help students take immediate action. • A closing reflection where students share what they’re taking away from the lesson and how they’ll apply it. The lessons can be delivered individually or as a complete series. The goal is not only to help students succeed, but also to teach them how to do so with a healthy mindset and without unnecessary stress.

Instructies

Brief introduction for the teacher:

Parents often want to support their child’s exam preparation, but they can also be a source of stress. Some students feel supported by their parents, while others feel pressured. In this lesson, students learn how to involve their parents in a way that truly helps them—without adding extra stress.

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Parents: Helpful or Hassle?

Lesson: 3

Parents and Exams: Support or Stress?

Introduction

Ask the students: Which one do you recognise?

How much do your parents get involved in your exam preparation?

They’re supportive and give me space.

They get too involved.

They want to help, but don’t know how.

They completely leave me to it.

Other..

Poll

Ask students to explain why their parents have either a positive or stressful influence on their exam preparation.

How can you best talk to your parents about exams?

1. Not talking about it, that way they won’t get involved.
2. Explaining how they can best help.
3. Only talk about it if things go wrong.
4. Letting your parents make all the decisions.

Quiz

Explain why smaller goals help to stay motivated.

Stap 1: Maak een lijst met alle vakken waarvoor je moet leren voor je examen

Stap 2: Verdeel de stof over meerdere dagen en blokken

Stap 3:Maak ruimte voor herhaling en rustdagen.

Stap 4: Maak een visueel duidelijke planning

Create a Plan for Parental Support

Think about what your parents are doing right now and how you experience it.

Write down the help you do and don’t want.

Short Conversation Plan for Explaining This to Your Parents.

Step: 1

Step: 2

Step: 3

Practical Assignment

Step 1:

Students think about what their parents are currently doing and how it feels.

 • Ask students to reflect on the help their parents are offering. This could be about support, reminders, guidance, or even pressure.

 • Have them think about how it makes them feel: Do they feel supported, stressed, or over-controlled?

Step 2:

They write down the help they do and don’t want.

 • Help them clarify what they do and don’t need.

For example:

 • What they do want: Attention to the schedule, help creating a quiet study space, positive encouragement.

 • What they don’t want: Too much control, constant interruptions, unsolicited advice.

Step 3:

They create a short conversation plan about how they can explain this to their parents.

 • Students create a plan where they calmly and clearly explain what they do and don’t need from their parents.

 • What can they say?

 • Start with appreciation for the support.

 • Explain what helps them and what causes stress.

 • Give specific examples of the kind of help they need.

 • Discuss boundaries, such as when they want space to study on their own.

Encourage students to actually try this:

 • Parents want to help, but sometimes they need guidance.

 • Students can have the conversation with their parents and respectfully set boundaries.

 • Emphasise that open communication is important and that parents often don’t know what’s best without explanation.

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Extra Tip:

Have students write a letter to their parents with the information from the steps above. This helps them communicate their needs and boundaries in an organised way and gives them a chance to think it through before having the conversation. The letter can serve as a helpful tool for a later discussion.

Exam help without stress

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Be clear about what you need

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Ask for help with specific things (such as reviewing or planning).

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Set boundaries: your parents can help, but you decide how.

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My most important tip is…

Closing

Ask pupils to choose one tip they’re going to apply straight away.

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Good communication = less frustration

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