MYP 4b Sex Education Lesson 1

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MYP 4b Sex Education 

By the end of this unit I will be able to:

Recognise what consent looks like

The role of communication in a healthy relationship

Understand pornography and it's impact on understanding consent

Identify pressure or when consent becomes persuasive

The right to give or not give consent and the right to withdraw consent

Manage appropriate and innappropriate conflict

Understand the physical and emotional aspects of masturbation

Contraception available and usage

Understand the differing types of STI’s, their prevention and the importance of sexual health and safe practices

Ground Rules

Online Posts

Read the two posts...

• Are the behaviours shared                                                 healthy or unhealthy?

• Is the advice provided                                                  appropriate or not?

Write your own reply giving high quality advice

Reconnecting Activity

Consent is defined in law as agreement by choice made by someone with the freedom and capacity to consent. Under the law, it is the person seeking consent who is responsible for ensuring that these conditions are met.

Add your ideas to the graffiti walls

Permission

"Would you like to...?"

Persuasion

"You know you want to...?"

Head, Heart, Hands

Read the overheard conversation.

Now consider Person A: What might they be thinking, feeling and doing next?

Head, Heart, Hands

Person B might be feeling:

Nervous

Uncertain

Uncomfortable

Distressed

Threatened

Afraid

Person A might be feeling:

Embarrassed

Rejected

Disrespected

Led on

However Person A is feeling, they MUST respect Person B's choice not to have sex

Ty and Jamie say they love each other and they both kiss for a long time before they both feel ready to go further

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Irene tells Jay he needs to hurry up and say yes as she is bored waiting for him to be ready. Jay thinks he might be ready but feels really nervous

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Jeff tells Carly that he will share a private video of her unless she sends him more.

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Suzanna asks Mali "Do you like this?"

Mali moans with pleasure and says "yes!"

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Simon tells Ade he thinks it would be sexy to watch porn together. But Ade feels really embarrassed about it.

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Greg's partner asks "How does that feel?"

He says; "Keep going. That feels good."

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Mario is stroking Tabitha's arm. She winces and pulls her arm away, saying "it feels tickly"

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

As they're about to have sex, Demi says she needs the toilet and disappears for a while. Then she says she's distracted by the noise, then she says the sofa is uncomfortable

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Taylor jokes that he'll start sleeping around with other girls if Lily doesn't do what he wants in bed.

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Mimi says "No" at first, but after Ed talks to her about it, she finally agrees to have sex.

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Alexis and Gia have spoken about contraception and gone to get some together. They are laughing, smiling, kissing and decide to take things further.

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

Aya has been exchanging sexy messages with her girlfriend about things she'd like to do when they're next together. They're meeting up at the weekend and she is really excited.

1. Enthusiastic Consent
2. May be consent but check to be sure
3. Not consent

• How could a person check consent, to ensure their partner was enthusiastically consenting in the moment?

• How could someone assertively communicate their feelings and explain concerns they might have? 

Appropriate Language

Inapproprate Statements

If you really loved me you would do this for me

I get what you're saying but when that happened I felt...

I really like you but something's really bothering me so can we talk about it?

You're overreacting - grow up!

I'm sorry I made you feel that way. Let me explain things from my point of view...

I don't like your friends so it's me or them!

I'm sorry. How can I make this better?

I hadn't thought of it like that before...

I promise I'll never do it again, as long as you don't upset me like that again...

It's easy to find someone else, so stop nagging me or we're through!

Whoa - that didn't feel right. Let's talk about it

Name ways to check someone
is happy with different
types of intimacy

Name skills that people your age
might practise to become better at communicating in healthy relationships

What is pornography?

Pornography is...

Books, magazines, films, etc. with no artistic value that describe or show sexual acts or naked people in a way that is intended to be sexually exciting.

However, recent theorists have defined it more specifically as material which presents people—particularly women—as mute, available, and subordinate sexual objects, often shown in a context of violence.

Diego's story...

Read Diego's story about his exposure to pornography

Then answer the following questions...

What happened to Diego's viewing habits around pornography throughout his teenage years?

How do you think Diego's pornography use affected his real-life relationships?

How do you think Diego's pornography use affected his girlfriend and others around him?

What might be the consequences of Diego's actions?

What does Diego need to do at the moment the story ends?

What is the impact of porn?

For many years, researchers have been exploring how viewing pornography can affect teenagers and adults, and their relationships.

Look at the harms on your sheet.

• Which did Diego experience in the story (shade these green)?
• Which did Diego not expereince (shade these red)?
• Which 'harm' of pornography do you consider most serious? Why?

What might be the possible harms of frequent pornography use?

Youth produced sexual imagery

Exposure to pornography can also lead people to feel increased pressure to create and share sexual imagery.

Read the scenarios and decide:

• Were any of the scenarios consensual at any point?
• When did any of the scenarios change to become non-consensual?
• Are any of these sceanarios illegal?

Statement Match Up

Match the start of the statement with the end of the statement

1. Start...

...End

...End

2. Start...

Contraception

Watch the following video and fill in the sheet

Teenage 

Pregnancy

Statistics

(2021)

Masturbation

Masturbation is when you touch your body and your genitals because it feels good or pleasurable

Both girls and boys masturbate and it's nothing to be ashamed of

Things to know:

• You can make yourself orgasm by doing it and it can be a pleasurable experience for men and women
  
• It is a way of discovering your body
  
• It is a normal part of life
  
• It is a way of exploring what makes you feel good
  

Female masturbation: stimulating the clitoris with your fingers

Male masturbation:

rubbing the skin of an erect penis 

Benefits:

• Helps you to understand what you like and don't like in relation to your own body
• It can help to loosen the foreskin in boys
• Can be a stress reliever for some people
• Can also help relieve feelings of sexual tension
  
• Some individuals rarely masturbate, and some individuals do it several times a day
  
• You do not get pregnant nor get sexually transmitted diseases by masturbating
  
• It can be a relaxing activity for some people and improve sleep
• A way to explore sexual feelings without having sex
• Can help individuals connect with their own bodies and cultivate a positive body image

Things to consider...

• Should be done in private
  
• Ensure you have a broad range of hobbies and                                                                                  interests and friends. If any one activity (such as masturbation)                                                             is taking up all of your time it is not a healthy habit.
• Many people worry they are doing it too much                                                                                              and this is an okay feeling to have
  
• Some people will choose a particular time when                                                                                        they know it will be done in private and discretely                                                                             (morning or late at night)
  

Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD's)

Genital Herpes

Genital Warts

Chlamydia

Gonorrhea

HIV

Syphilis

Human PapillomaVirus (HPV)

HPV does not usually cause symptoms

Sometimes the virus can cause painless growths or lumps on your body (warts)

HPV is a group of related viruses

There are more than 200 types. About 40 of them are spread through direct sexual contact with someone who has the virus

They can also spread through other intimate, skin to skin contact

Some of these types can cause cancer

HPV is very common

Condoms can reduce but not eliminate risk.

Vaccinations given to prevent.

Scraping cells from the cervix in females to screen for the virus. Visual idenitification in males

No treatment

HPV

Further Resources...

Your GP/Huisarts

sense.info

ceopeducation.co.uk

And of course you can always speak with...

Nurse Rachel

Ms Kirsty

and/or

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