Boundaries and Consent

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• Further Education (Key Stage 5)

Boundaries and Consent

Your body, your space, your rights

What does the word “boundary” mean to you?

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s

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Which is a personal boundary?

A

Your bus timetable

B

Who can touch you

C

Your teacher’s rules

D

School uniform

Consent

Consent must be:

• Freely given

• Clear

• Sober

• Changeable

• Without pressure

If any of those are missing – it is NOT consent.

🔴 Silence is NOT consent
🔴 Pressure is NOT consent
🔴 Being in a relationship

does NOT remove your

right to say no

Have you ever felt uncomfortable but stayed quiet?

1

Yes

2

No

3

Maybe

4

Prefer not say

Drag and Drop: Consent or Not Consent

Consent

Not Consent

Saying yes freely

Being pressured

Feeling safe to say no

Being scared

Being drunk/forced

Clear agreement

• It is illegal to pressure someone into sexual activity
• It is illegal to pressure for nudes
• It is illegal to share someone’s images without consent
• These offences can lead to prison sentences, fines and being put on the Sex Offenders Register

Why do people sometimes struggle to say no?

Case Study: Ella 16

Ella (16)
Her boyfriend gets annoyed when she doesn’t want to hug or kiss in public and says
“If you loved me you would.”

Question: What is wrong here?

What is Ella's boyfriend's behaviour?

A

Love

B

Respect

C

Pressure

D

Care

🔴 Guilt-tripping is a form of emotional pressure
🔴 Pressure can still be abuse even without violence

Case Study: Jay 17

Jay (17)
Jay is pressured to send private photos and is told “Everyone does it”.

Question: Is this consent?

What should Jay do?

A

Send them

B

Say no and talk to a trusted adult

C

Ignore

D

Pretend it didn't happen

🔴 Pressuring for photos is sexual coercion
🔴 Sharing images without consent is illegal

Drag and Drop: Healthy Boundaries

Healthy

Unhealthy

Saying no

Feeling safe

Fear

Guilt-tripping

Pressure

Being respected

Consent or Not Consent?

You Decide

“They were very drunk and couldn’t stand properly”

1

Consent

2

Not Consent

They had one drink but were fully aware and confident”

1

Consent

2

Not Consent

They were pressured while drunk

1

Consent

2

Not Consent

They were sober and clearly agreed

1

Consent

2

Not Consent

They were asleep

1

Consent

2

Not Consent

In the UK, sex with someone who is too drunk to consent even if you know each other is illegal. Prison sentences can apply.

Real- world Consequences

People have been sentenced to prison for:

• Sharing someone’s nudes
• Pressuring partners for images
• Threatening to leak images
• Ignoring someone saying “no”

These are criminal offences – even between teenagers.

Case Study

A 16-year-old girl was pressured by her boyfriend to send private photos.
He shared them in a group chat after they broke up.

Result:
He was arrested, banned from contacting her, and given a criminal record.

Question:
Who’s life changed here?

• A criminal record can affect college, jobs, travel and future relationships
• Online actions can follow you for life
• Respect protects everyone

Take Away

Boundaries are not rude.
Consent is not awkward.
Pressure is abuse.